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Our 1st overnight with our 11 month old

We took our first overnight trip with our 11 month old daughter to Boston. Luckily we have very close friends who have a great house right in Southie on Thomas Park. It is the place where George Washington himself fought  his very first battle.In the cold doldrums of March in the middle of the night he and his troops hauled 40 cannons to the top of this hill and when the British awoke it was good morning Boston! and welcome to a new world

Now Boston is beautiful modern but still Historic. With all of its European charm and deep local neighborhood roots South Boston is a neighborhood like no other

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Bringing our daughter to the aquarium was really a great experience. Not having her sleep in her own bed however was not. Like George Washington’s first cold battle driven evening I could only pray for having such resolve. Our little girl was not pleased from the hours of 1 AM to 4:59 . It especially difficult for mommy as we were in Boston for her work. But in the end we learned a lot saw a lot and are now completely exhausted.  Just a quick post to share our experiences. Thanks for stopping and as always have fun the daddy adjustment

InstaLife

Well it’s been a real long time team daddy but I’m coming back. My wife ended up having to have surgery and definitely put me out the blogging game for a couple of months. Now she’s back to work and daddy’s got a new load. Our daughter since then has now skipped a nap and she is pretty much mobile. Cooking dinner doing thingslike playing with my new iPhone are all impossible if she is awake and I am alone. It’s kind of crazy how fast everything has come together it really just seems like a long time ago an a galaxy far way when my wife was giant pregnant and I was getting ready to cook my first Thanksgiving turkey. jump to hyperspace,now I make number two with an audience of an 11 month old and have to play games through the whole thing.  Yup it’s a whole new world. Speaking of a whole new world did you hear that George Lucas sold Star Wars to Disney! that news got me thinking after all star wars and it’s lessons shaped my values in life. Even though I never did become a Jedi I do sometimes feel like one when I’m on skis or in nature. I sometimes get concerned that I will have lost my clairvoyant abilities as they are so rusty they probably wouldn’t even move. Waote what would Yoda say? I know that fear leads to anger anger leads to suffering thanks Yoda.  I will teach my daughter how to ski and yes she will be on skis this year at 15 months. There is no try there is only do.
My wife also got me an iPhone so we can FaceTime while she’s at work I really didn’t realize how great that was really going to be. It’s also help me understand why my wife won’t put the phone down when the baby is sleeping. Now that I understand how to use the camera and this thing called Instagram.  I’m a complete insta junkie.  Who knew that anyone could look so talented with such ease.  truth be told I have been really enjoying my new phone so thanks Honey !  What does the next episode hold for me?  I dont know but im sure it will be interesting.  Just a quick post to try to use the force and get back into the practice of blogging.

Thanks for stopping and have FUN !

To sell baby stuff or not to sell baby stuff, who knew it was such a big decision.

Well we are at 8 months and our daughter is now growing out of most things that we have relied on for her whole life.  Hehe whole life, things like the “Rock and Play” the “Bumbo” My wife stopped breast feeding so that $300 Medela travel pump could go.  How about the 4Moms Momma Roo?  It was totally awesome but wow that was fast.  She got to use it for 6 months and it’s still like new.  So now what? 

My buddy just called and told me his family was growing by one and couldn’t help feeling really excited for him.  “Congratulations’ Bro you’re an animal” So do we want to have another baby?  Or can I sell this stuff on E-Bay and reclaim parts of my house that resemble a reality show called The Baby Clutter Freaks.  Did I mentation that when the conversation begins to lean towards not having another baby I am faced with winning the booby prize of a vasectomy.  Now I know everyone says it’s the equivalent of drive through surgery.  But in the words of Tony Soprano “why do you want to mess with god’s creation down there”?  To be honest God has nothing to do with it just a pure natural fear of knives cutting my balls that’s all.   So as you can see there is a much larger question and why do all decisions now that we are parents seem so serious?  I went from wanting to sell the Mamma Roo to spending the better part of my weekend sitting on frozen peas with no hopes of procreating again.  So I guess it’s something to consider. 

I have updated my E Bay account taken some sweet pics and now nothing… Why am I hanging on to this?  Have any of you had the experience of turning into a blubbering fool while watching some commercial featuring a father and child. In the past I have written that  having a daughter has softened me for sure.  Frankly it was long over do so I am not complaining, but as my blog name suggests it is has been and still continues to be an “adjustment” I welcome any advice from those who have gone through this and are now on the other side.  Please just keep mind when it comes to children I’ve become a six foot three two hundred and 40 lb. marshmallow.  Thanks for stopping by and HAVE FUN!!

D.A.

Nice Cans

The time is finally upon us.  Time to break out your pressure canner and make good wholesome magic for your family.  One of the best things about this ritual is that all winter long you will to enjoy the fresh tastes of summer. Your dishes will pop believe me.  A fun addition to feeling like your grandparents is a lower carbon footprint.  With all the draught and heat we have had this season you know getting food to your table will cost more.  Now more than ever is a wonderful time to take advantage of any local resources you may have in the way of tasty harvest.

Canning isn’t rocket science its really quite easy. However it will require you to have a great deal of patience if nothing else.  Oh yeah a mind for paying attention to detail works to ones advantage while preserving food.  I can recall not long ago when finding supplies for this lost art was a chore. Now it seems we are seeing more and more of these reappear in hardware and grocery stores.  It could arguably be one of the more positive things about losing annual household income. In recent years as the economy tightens so have of our minds keen on getting the most for our family on what we can afford.  Canning done right can be an investment in your winter season. I still marvel in the simplicity in pressure canning and how it takes no preservatives what so ever to preserve natures’ perfection

 Here is what you will want to do.  Sterilize 14-16 quart ball jars.  In a separate pot boil water and drop in the lids.  I canned corn this time which requires a pressure of 11 at 55 minutes.  This applies to those at 2000 feet or lower.   You will need to invest in a pressuer canner as hot water bath will only work on fruit and tomatoes.  I have been using the same Presto one I bought at our local Hardware store.  For the 90 bucks it pays off for sure.

Shuck, Blanch, and then cut corn off cob into a bowl.  Then ladle in corn leaving a solid 1-2 inches. Then pour water from the blanching into the jar a cup plus is good here.  Be sure to use a knife or something to run the air bubbles out and ensure you have enough water in the jar.  Be sure you have covered the goods with water.  Not doing so will result in a real bummer come February trust me. No one likes corn the color and taste of dirt.  When you tighten the bands on the lids go easy and let the pressure canner do it’s thing.  So just a quick snug no need to be He-Man here. 

Once you’ve hit you’re the 11 P.S.I. start to back the heat down.  After about 45 minutes turn off the heat and watch the pressure drop when the tab drops be careful and lift lid AWAY from you.  You need canning tongs (in Pic with cans)to remove jars so be sure to acquire these prior to attempting this.  Let sit on a towel over night, they are done.  I love the sound of the jars sealing Tknock! Times 7 so sweet a sound! 

Next up Tomatoes!  Hope you enjoyed the photos from our local farm.  Buy local, save farms, eat well and as always Have Fun!

Party for your mouth!

Just a quick photo post to share some awesome produce with you.  We are in the time when the hot house veggies are fully ripe and the field veggies start coming in.  My daughter and I took a walk to our local farm stand and I couldn’t help take a couple photos with my crumby phone.  I hope they show the color and vibrancy of our local bounty.  My taste buds wait all winter for this time of year and right now “its on”!    Enjoy your day, celebrate your family’s life and eat well over the weekend.  You deserve it!  Thanks for stopping by and have FUN! 

Your friend Daddy Adjustment

               

Dads’ Ski Poem

Greetings team Daddy!  Hope things are adjusting well.  For some time now I have wanted to share a poem written by one of my best friends and old ski partner.  He sent this to me after a much needed coast to coast pal call.   I have been carrying his words in my wallet for weeks now.  Every time I read it I smile.  Perhaps some of you will encounter similar conditions.  Those were true times my friend filled with the honesty that only nature and outdoor friendship provide. I cannot wait to share winter sports with our daughter! So enjoy my Pals’ bad ass ski poem its Fun!  Booter!!

 Thanks for stopping by!  The D.A.      

I’m about to burst through a mogul of pow

Riding the wind screaming on a mountain high

Dropping a line of trees and turns

Steel edges slash and my left thigh burns

What is below becomes above

Light as a feather

As peaceful as dove

The power of my will

The precision of my intent

Through a forest of iron ice

I ride knowing how to be man

My head held above the clouds

Busting through barriers bum rushing the crowds

Cresting the light of saviors

One with the creators

Nothing else we find inside can define the power when we ride

M. Wright

Totally 80’s Summer

 

Greetings Team Daddy,  I hope the warmth of summer has filled your mind with innocent memories of the good old days  when you were small the world was big and during this time in July  summer seemed like it could last forever.  Remember when the only thing you thought about at the end of the day was how to do it all over again only better?  Or spending a few hours on a steamy summer morning picking wild black raspberries, then selling them on the side of the road.  Or perhaps that feeling of wonder by investigating if one could actually get full by way of licking honey suckle in the golden afternoon light.  I myself get taken back to my youth every morning I step outside and feel the humidity and smell the air. I always say the same thing in my mind. ”it’s going to be a scaucher!”   

I guess it’s easy to be nostalgic when you’re a parent. We naturally want to provide a space where our children can experience the magic of life and wonder of nature.  We long for a simple time.  I am getting a little concerned that simplicity has been drowned out by the ever present wave of technology in most homes across America our home included.  Let’s face it, I had all these adventures outside. During a time when TV consisted of 3 stations one of which came in fuzzy.  A time when the only thing on TV in the day time was soap operas. Now at our home we have over 500 channels as well as movies galore.  Trying to find something to watch can resemble looking for a gift at Wal-Mart.  Half way through your exhausted and have found nothing.  Back in the day when damning up steams to make a swimming hole with your friends at night somehow we ALL found something to watch or read at night. 

 Which brings me to another point.  I read a great piece Sunday in our local paper on the recent passing of actors like Andy Griffith. Then the other day Ernest Borgnine passed.  The writer made a case that I have been thinking about for days now.  When we grow up having 3 stations meant everyone who was up watched Johnny Carson.  Didn’t matter what side of the isle or which side of town we all watched Johnny late night.  It gave us all a place of common ground the next day.  I guess you could say TV brought us together back then as a family and a community.  Now with all the choices everyone has their own show to watch. These shows express the opinion you want to hear.  So in my mind now TV has pulled us apart.  We no longer have to watch-listen to anyone who doesn’t share our-your opinion.  As a result we are less empathic to others and less connected as a global village.

 So why not turn off the glowing orb or at least one of them today and enjoy some simple pleasures with your family.  You will be thankful you did.  I wish I did but I turned on VH1 the other day and saw Totally 80s.  There was Kenny Loggins perferming “I’m all right “.  He was in a bold outfit complete with red pleated no ass pants a white belt and white shoes.  As he kicked speakers with his Capizio’s I couldn’t help but think…Thank goodness I survived the 80’s.  Lucky I was outside having FUN!  Thanks for stopping by.

 The Daddy Adjustment

Happy 4th of July!

Happy 4th!

Just a quick post as we hear all the fun fireworks going off all around us.  All the while hoping that they don’t wake our daughter and end soon That way we can go to sleep too.  How things change.

Be safe and HAVE FUN

Staycation all I ever wanted

Greetings Team Daddy, 

Thanks for stopping by.  It has been a really busy since Fathers’ Day.  I have been settling into my new vocation quite well or so I though. I am a doer. Many times people have made fun of my “to do” list. Look I like to have “accomplishments’” every day it works for me.  To tell you the truth there is a pure gratification that comes with crossing a chore you’ve done off a list.  Ah simple pleasures. 

This year due to Baby and the fact that our income has been cut in half, we are Staycationing this summer.  Hooray after over a year of pretty much staying home we get to stay home for vacation.  An added bonus, we get to do all the yard word and organizing during that time.  Man this is going to be great!  Ok I’ll stop with the sarcasm, those of you not from New England may not find that at all funny but it was meant as a joke none the less. Having a way with sarcasm around here is something of a common ground.  Often comments are considered funny that in other parts of the country you get your face punched in for uttering such an insult.  It is an aliquant art form, one that takes a life time to master.  But only a moment to relish.  Since I am no taking off this year I thought I would share some shots from a trip my wife and I did a few summers ago.  We toured the BVI for a couple weeks and can’t wait to bring our daughter there, just beautiful.    

I digress, sorry Team Daddy.  The summer solstice is finally here and it is bringing on the heat in a major way.  It also marks 6 months for our daughter.  I can’t believe it has already been 6 months.  I am finally starting to realize what everyone has been saying with the ever present sentiment of “enjoy it, it goes by fast” You know what?  They were totally right. 

 It was in that sweltering heat that my daughters’ constant whines and cry’s from a nap missed that I had a personal breakdown.  It was strange because it lasted for about 5 seconds and only did minor damage. Not unlike the extremely rare earthquake we had last summer.  She had missed her nap because daddy had to go somewhere and was figgin pissed off and no I am not being sarcastic.  It was about 3 hours of nonstop whinning when while cleaning the toilet extremely unfavorable toilet water splashed down on my new Nike Airmax sneakers.  A brief brilliant flash of bright white light.  AAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!  Our entire home shook.  It was there and then alone with my own immaturity, or perhaps it was that last bit of the old selfish me.  Still holding on waiting for me to reconnect.  Like an anxious pal waiting by the lift on a powder day, that spirit only holds so long.  I thought ”I can’t ever let this happen again”.  What about myself do I have to learn to ensure this?      

The answer, yet another adjustment for Daddy.  I was forever focused on the chores and accomplishments I was unable to achieve in a day. My wife would come home to childish complaints from Daddy about stuff he didn’t get to do.  Not the best way to attract attention from the one who is out there working all day.  Now since that moment I have had nothing but delight and gratitude.  I focus on all of the positive I created for our world each day.  Sometimes that list is short. Something like taking our daughter for a walk to our “meditation spot”, or cooking dinner even cleaning the toilet.  All done in the name of appreciation and gratitude. 

Raising our children is important work it should to be taken with respect and understanding.  I often wonder if teachers made as much as doctors would we have more children reaching for higher goals?  Perhaps a result could be there would be more doctors.  More value could be given our teachers and anyone who actively enriches his or her community by way of sharing their common wealth of knowledge.

 So onward we go where many daddies’ have gone before.  A world where small accomplishments make measurable differences in a long life.  Letting go to that which now holds me back.  Embracing the challenges faced by a new man.  One who does for many and is proud of it.  This post is dedicated to those few that have and still are sharing their truth with me and allowing me to do the same.  Also my grandmother Nonnie who I miss every day.  Happy Birthday We love you!  Thank you for all your gifts shared. 

As always have Fun!

Your Friend Daddy Adjustment.

Twitter Dinner for Two?

This is a fun and easy recipe for a very tasty dinner that will leave them thinking you worked for hours.  It only takes 30 minute start to finish.  This dish has a fun side that has the sweet flavor of summer using abundant produce such as farm fresh green beans and cherry tomatoes. 

You can use skin on, bone in chicken or boneless skinless as I did here.  I should also share that both of these dished are a result of reading and watching cooking shows. The chicken dish is from  Every Day food magazine.  A Martha Stuart publication.  If you follow me on twitter you may remember a tweet of two about trying it.  I did make some changes-additions however. I believe recipes are like general directions, but it’s up to you to make your own trip an adventure.  So enjoy the journey and take chances.

 The Tuscan Green Beans are without question my favorite way to eat green beans.  Funny enough I just thought of three other ways to enjoy the veggie that keeps on giving.  (Homer Simpson moment, mmm green beans.)  This dish I first made after seeing it done on the show Extra Virgin with Gabriele Corcos on the Cooking Network.  Again I have made some changes but I like to give credit where credit is… well whatever he has a boat load of credit any way and he never responds to my obviously overtly fan based tweets. Don’t worry Team Daddy life is more than winning the who has the most celebrity followers on Twitter game.  

Please take a moment and help someone you love enjoy this dinner.  You will find it is easier to make than a bunch of imaginary friends on twitter and much better on the ego too. 

Thanks for stopping by and as always HAVE FUN! 

Your friend The Daddy Adjustment.

 Chicken, pre heat oven 425  Mix in bowl, 4 oz or so of goat cheese, hand full of rinsed pepperoncini peppers diced, handful of fresh thyme chopped, a drizzle of olive oil.  2 chicken breast cut with a paring knife.  One inch cut with a nice pocket inside the breast.

Stuff with filling.   In a cast or oven safe pan with lid sear on both sides over medium heat.  Then cover and bake in oven for 20 min or till you hit the 160 mark.  This time I had thick breasts from Costco so it took an extra 3 mins.  Hold on Homer Simpson again ah thick breast.  Easy Daddy this is a family Blog!  Tip #1, that pan is friggin hot!!! Use mits. Tip#2 use tooth picks if the chicken blows out as I had to do.

Green beans, just sauté a little chopped onion garlic in some heated Olive oil cut cherry tomatoes in half once onions run clear drop in tomatoes and salt.  Bleed them a bit and drop in green beans.  They will end up steaming through and will be done about the time your chicken has set for a few after pulling it out.  Oh yeah be sure to flip the chick and let it sit in the pan for a few after pulling it out of the oven.