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Our 1st overnight with our 11 month old

We took our first overnight trip with our 11 month old daughter to Boston. Luckily we have very close friends who have a great house right in Southie on Thomas Park. It is the place where George Washington himself fought  his very first battle.In the cold doldrums of March in the middle of the night he and his troops hauled 40 cannons to the top of this hill and when the British awoke it was good morning Boston! and welcome to a new world

Now Boston is beautiful modern but still Historic. With all of its European charm and deep local neighborhood roots South Boston is a neighborhood like no other

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Bringing our daughter to the aquarium was really a great experience. Not having her sleep in her own bed however was not. Like George Washington’s first cold battle driven evening I could only pray for having such resolve. Our little girl was not pleased from the hours of 1 AM to 4:59 . It especially difficult for mommy as we were in Boston for her work. But in the end we learned a lot saw a lot and are now completely exhausted.  Just a quick post to share our experiences. Thanks for stopping and as always have fun the daddy adjustment

Party for your mouth!

Just a quick photo post to share some awesome produce with you.  We are in the time when the hot house veggies are fully ripe and the field veggies start coming in.  My daughter and I took a walk to our local farm stand and I couldn’t help take a couple photos with my crumby phone.  I hope they show the color and vibrancy of our local bounty.  My taste buds wait all winter for this time of year and right now “its on”!    Enjoy your day, celebrate your family’s life and eat well over the weekend.  You deserve it!  Thanks for stopping by and have FUN! 

Your friend Daddy Adjustment

               

Dads’ Ski Poem

Greetings team Daddy!  Hope things are adjusting well.  For some time now I have wanted to share a poem written by one of my best friends and old ski partner.  He sent this to me after a much needed coast to coast pal call.   I have been carrying his words in my wallet for weeks now.  Every time I read it I smile.  Perhaps some of you will encounter similar conditions.  Those were true times my friend filled with the honesty that only nature and outdoor friendship provide. I cannot wait to share winter sports with our daughter! So enjoy my Pals’ bad ass ski poem its Fun!  Booter!!

 Thanks for stopping by!  The D.A.      

I’m about to burst through a mogul of pow

Riding the wind screaming on a mountain high

Dropping a line of trees and turns

Steel edges slash and my left thigh burns

What is below becomes above

Light as a feather

As peaceful as dove

The power of my will

The precision of my intent

Through a forest of iron ice

I ride knowing how to be man

My head held above the clouds

Busting through barriers bum rushing the crowds

Cresting the light of saviors

One with the creators

Nothing else we find inside can define the power when we ride

M. Wright

Totally 80’s Summer

 

Greetings Team Daddy,  I hope the warmth of summer has filled your mind with innocent memories of the good old days  when you were small the world was big and during this time in July  summer seemed like it could last forever.  Remember when the only thing you thought about at the end of the day was how to do it all over again only better?  Or spending a few hours on a steamy summer morning picking wild black raspberries, then selling them on the side of the road.  Or perhaps that feeling of wonder by investigating if one could actually get full by way of licking honey suckle in the golden afternoon light.  I myself get taken back to my youth every morning I step outside and feel the humidity and smell the air. I always say the same thing in my mind. ”it’s going to be a scaucher!”   

I guess it’s easy to be nostalgic when you’re a parent. We naturally want to provide a space where our children can experience the magic of life and wonder of nature.  We long for a simple time.  I am getting a little concerned that simplicity has been drowned out by the ever present wave of technology in most homes across America our home included.  Let’s face it, I had all these adventures outside. During a time when TV consisted of 3 stations one of which came in fuzzy.  A time when the only thing on TV in the day time was soap operas. Now at our home we have over 500 channels as well as movies galore.  Trying to find something to watch can resemble looking for a gift at Wal-Mart.  Half way through your exhausted and have found nothing.  Back in the day when damning up steams to make a swimming hole with your friends at night somehow we ALL found something to watch or read at night. 

 Which brings me to another point.  I read a great piece Sunday in our local paper on the recent passing of actors like Andy Griffith. Then the other day Ernest Borgnine passed.  The writer made a case that I have been thinking about for days now.  When we grow up having 3 stations meant everyone who was up watched Johnny Carson.  Didn’t matter what side of the isle or which side of town we all watched Johnny late night.  It gave us all a place of common ground the next day.  I guess you could say TV brought us together back then as a family and a community.  Now with all the choices everyone has their own show to watch. These shows express the opinion you want to hear.  So in my mind now TV has pulled us apart.  We no longer have to watch-listen to anyone who doesn’t share our-your opinion.  As a result we are less empathic to others and less connected as a global village.

 So why not turn off the glowing orb or at least one of them today and enjoy some simple pleasures with your family.  You will be thankful you did.  I wish I did but I turned on VH1 the other day and saw Totally 80s.  There was Kenny Loggins perferming “I’m all right “.  He was in a bold outfit complete with red pleated no ass pants a white belt and white shoes.  As he kicked speakers with his Capizio’s I couldn’t help but think…Thank goodness I survived the 80’s.  Lucky I was outside having FUN!  Thanks for stopping by.

 The Daddy Adjustment

Staycation all I ever wanted

Greetings Team Daddy, 

Thanks for stopping by.  It has been a really busy since Fathers’ Day.  I have been settling into my new vocation quite well or so I though. I am a doer. Many times people have made fun of my “to do” list. Look I like to have “accomplishments’” every day it works for me.  To tell you the truth there is a pure gratification that comes with crossing a chore you’ve done off a list.  Ah simple pleasures. 

This year due to Baby and the fact that our income has been cut in half, we are Staycationing this summer.  Hooray after over a year of pretty much staying home we get to stay home for vacation.  An added bonus, we get to do all the yard word and organizing during that time.  Man this is going to be great!  Ok I’ll stop with the sarcasm, those of you not from New England may not find that at all funny but it was meant as a joke none the less. Having a way with sarcasm around here is something of a common ground.  Often comments are considered funny that in other parts of the country you get your face punched in for uttering such an insult.  It is an aliquant art form, one that takes a life time to master.  But only a moment to relish.  Since I am no taking off this year I thought I would share some shots from a trip my wife and I did a few summers ago.  We toured the BVI for a couple weeks and can’t wait to bring our daughter there, just beautiful.    

I digress, sorry Team Daddy.  The summer solstice is finally here and it is bringing on the heat in a major way.  It also marks 6 months for our daughter.  I can’t believe it has already been 6 months.  I am finally starting to realize what everyone has been saying with the ever present sentiment of “enjoy it, it goes by fast” You know what?  They were totally right. 

 It was in that sweltering heat that my daughters’ constant whines and cry’s from a nap missed that I had a personal breakdown.  It was strange because it lasted for about 5 seconds and only did minor damage. Not unlike the extremely rare earthquake we had last summer.  She had missed her nap because daddy had to go somewhere and was figgin pissed off and no I am not being sarcastic.  It was about 3 hours of nonstop whinning when while cleaning the toilet extremely unfavorable toilet water splashed down on my new Nike Airmax sneakers.  A brief brilliant flash of bright white light.  AAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!  Our entire home shook.  It was there and then alone with my own immaturity, or perhaps it was that last bit of the old selfish me.  Still holding on waiting for me to reconnect.  Like an anxious pal waiting by the lift on a powder day, that spirit only holds so long.  I thought ”I can’t ever let this happen again”.  What about myself do I have to learn to ensure this?      

The answer, yet another adjustment for Daddy.  I was forever focused on the chores and accomplishments I was unable to achieve in a day. My wife would come home to childish complaints from Daddy about stuff he didn’t get to do.  Not the best way to attract attention from the one who is out there working all day.  Now since that moment I have had nothing but delight and gratitude.  I focus on all of the positive I created for our world each day.  Sometimes that list is short. Something like taking our daughter for a walk to our “meditation spot”, or cooking dinner even cleaning the toilet.  All done in the name of appreciation and gratitude. 

Raising our children is important work it should to be taken with respect and understanding.  I often wonder if teachers made as much as doctors would we have more children reaching for higher goals?  Perhaps a result could be there would be more doctors.  More value could be given our teachers and anyone who actively enriches his or her community by way of sharing their common wealth of knowledge.

 So onward we go where many daddies’ have gone before.  A world where small accomplishments make measurable differences in a long life.  Letting go to that which now holds me back.  Embracing the challenges faced by a new man.  One who does for many and is proud of it.  This post is dedicated to those few that have and still are sharing their truth with me and allowing me to do the same.  Also my grandmother Nonnie who I miss every day.  Happy Birthday We love you!  Thank you for all your gifts shared. 

As always have Fun!

Your Friend Daddy Adjustment.

Twitter Dinner for Two?

This is a fun and easy recipe for a very tasty dinner that will leave them thinking you worked for hours.  It only takes 30 minute start to finish.  This dish has a fun side that has the sweet flavor of summer using abundant produce such as farm fresh green beans and cherry tomatoes. 

You can use skin on, bone in chicken or boneless skinless as I did here.  I should also share that both of these dished are a result of reading and watching cooking shows. The chicken dish is from  Every Day food magazine.  A Martha Stuart publication.  If you follow me on twitter you may remember a tweet of two about trying it.  I did make some changes-additions however. I believe recipes are like general directions, but it’s up to you to make your own trip an adventure.  So enjoy the journey and take chances.

 The Tuscan Green Beans are without question my favorite way to eat green beans.  Funny enough I just thought of three other ways to enjoy the veggie that keeps on giving.  (Homer Simpson moment, mmm green beans.)  This dish I first made after seeing it done on the show Extra Virgin with Gabriele Corcos on the Cooking Network.  Again I have made some changes but I like to give credit where credit is… well whatever he has a boat load of credit any way and he never responds to my obviously overtly fan based tweets. Don’t worry Team Daddy life is more than winning the who has the most celebrity followers on Twitter game.  

Please take a moment and help someone you love enjoy this dinner.  You will find it is easier to make than a bunch of imaginary friends on twitter and much better on the ego too. 

Thanks for stopping by and as always HAVE FUN! 

Your friend The Daddy Adjustment.

 Chicken, pre heat oven 425  Mix in bowl, 4 oz or so of goat cheese, hand full of rinsed pepperoncini peppers diced, handful of fresh thyme chopped, a drizzle of olive oil.  2 chicken breast cut with a paring knife.  One inch cut with a nice pocket inside the breast.

Stuff with filling.   In a cast or oven safe pan with lid sear on both sides over medium heat.  Then cover and bake in oven for 20 min or till you hit the 160 mark.  This time I had thick breasts from Costco so it took an extra 3 mins.  Hold on Homer Simpson again ah thick breast.  Easy Daddy this is a family Blog!  Tip #1, that pan is friggin hot!!! Use mits. Tip#2 use tooth picks if the chicken blows out as I had to do.

Green beans, just sauté a little chopped onion garlic in some heated Olive oil cut cherry tomatoes in half once onions run clear drop in tomatoes and salt.  Bleed them a bit and drop in green beans.  They will end up steaming through and will be done about the time your chicken has set for a few after pulling it out.  Oh yeah be sure to flip the chick and let it sit in the pan for a few after pulling it out of the oven.

Happy Father’s Day Poem

 

Dear Dad,

May all of your drives hit the green and roll up to the pin.

And when you put for birdie they always go in.

May you make lite work of all your household chores.

And when you’re rowing the dingy may you never lose an ore.

May your sails never luff and forever fill with wind.

And may each journey end as safely as they begin.

May all your ski days have no lift lines and bright skies.

I hope your boots stay comfortable, and you keep your in shape thighs.

May your wife always love you and your truck never run out of gas.

After 40 years of life I finally understand what you mean by

“it goes by fast”…Happy Father’s Day Pop! Have Fun!

Your son, The Daddy Adjustment

Father’s Day Fantasies’

 

 Hi Team Daddy, it’s only a day away from Father’s Day and I am super excited.  However as many of you already know this “adjustment” hasn’t all been entirely easy.  Our daughter is just about 6 months old which means I now operate well on 5 hours sleep.  If you are just entering fatherhood, don’t worry Bro you will stop hallucinating soon.  Just remember you paid pretty good money in your less mature days to feel like that. 

So today I want to talk about some of Daddy’s favorite things.  Yes an adult post is definitely needed for me.  Frankly some good adult time sounds kind of nice.  I am NOT talking about the conversations my wife and I have after our girl goes down for the night.  They always seem to drift back to the Baby.  Look I am not complaining, I love all of this but I am an outdoor action sport enthusiast. The past year has sucked for me in that category.  The closest thing I did in the past year is golf.  Now I love the sport and yes the adrenaline can pump as your ball gets close to the pin, but really it’s a pretty far cry from throwing myself off a small’ rock cliffs on my skis.  Ripping hard through fresh nar and disappearing into the white room. If you haven’t skied lots of Pow you won’t get that last part.  In the summer months here we have great white water kayaking after the damn release.  Motocross and 4×4 riding is also a wonderful way to get your heart pump fix on. 

 Unfortunately I no longer have a dirt bike.  I didn’t get to ski at all this year. I can feel lost without my centered sense of catharticism that for me is only attainable by risking my life for self-glory. Who I am as an athlete is fading fast.  This above all else is what fears me about this new Daddy Adjustment.    

I have begun to look for adrenaline in all the wrong places.  Taking unnecessary risks when I am by myself in the car.  I found myself trying to instigate some road ragging ass into a confrontation. “Whoa daddy you got to get a hold on yourself” So I take solace in my photos and videos from my past.  In what few friends I have left, and in cool ass movies such as “Dust to Glory” Straight up the best documentary on the incredible story that is the race the Baja 1000. If you’re a guy and you still have your man hood you will love this movie.  If you are a man and you watch it and you feel nothing? Things are worse than I thought.  Better watch that sucker again. This time go get a beer and turn up the volume on the TV.

 Ok that’s better I think I just herd some Daddy screams of joy.  That’s right yell and holler so your old self can hear you.  He is lost, beat up and bruised but not broken.  Your hollowing’s help him up and back to you safely nestled back in your over inflated ego where he belongs.  All of this testosterone talk makes me think of my favorite place on earth LAKE TAHAOE!  I don’t care if it’s to the north at Squaw or on the South shore this place is made for people who like life.  Everyone you meet who lives there are in love with their surroundings and it is easy to see why.  They all possess the spirit I love, the adventure spirit.  It’s not just for vacations’ it’s for life. 

 When someone asks you “what do you want for Father’s day?  Think hard about an adrenalin trip to Tahoe or to the Baja in November.  I know I will be day dreaming all I can till I feel my heart pump again.  Please send me what makes your heart pump. 

Thanks for stopping by and HAVE FUN!! Your friend Daddy Adjustment

Get Nurished for Father’s Day

Hey Team Daddy! Hope you are getting super excited for your BIG weekend.  I have never before thought about being a dad on Father’s day. Here is a very simple summer recipe that I have adapted from a few different old Italian standards.  I thought to post it as I made it in 30 minutes today after my Nephew came over to help me move old couches out of the basement so I can wash the walls and steam clean the carpets. Man do I know how to celebrate my first Father’s day or what.  I’m not complaining, I am actually excited to get this stuff done. So make something good and fast so you can keep going…Lots more fun to come very soon, please stay tuned and HAVE FUN!! 

Just skin 4 turkey sausages and brown.  Put cooked sausage in bowl save to the side.  Then drop in one red pepper, a piece crumpled cooked turkey bacon, half red onion, and two cloves garlic chopped.  Run clear and deglaze with a bit of white dry wine like a Pino G.  Then add a lb. or so of halved cherry tomatoes. (I used yellows ones here) sprinkle with salt sauté 10 minutes until a nice sauce develops.  Drop in a can of rinsed white beans a little hot pepper flakes and some cooked andante pasta and finish with a quick drizzle of extra virgin and fresh grated pecorino cheese and garnish with parsley.  Manga Papa!

Pizza or Peace-zza?

Greetings’ Team Daddy, hope you are enjoying this wonderful day.  I trust the weekend was filled with joy and togetherness.   “How’s that?” why am I so cheery, its Monday? Take it in a notch? No thanks. Someone amazing once said “There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so others feel more comfortable around you”.  So we are not going to play that game today.  However I will play another game with you.  It’s called Lets’ fantasize about Friday instead of being present to the doldrums’ of Monday. Before all of you who recently just finished Siddhartha get concerned allow me to share one of my secrets to inner peace…PIZZA!  That’s right!  Now is a great time to plan your family fun Friday night feast.  Just like the feeling of a once valued lottery ticket that was sure to change your family’s life now transformed into crumped up dreams, tossed in the trash.  A back to work Monday can resemble that empty, lost feeling.  Again how do we overcome this Team Daddy? PIZZA! 

Pizza has always been a comfort food for me.  I think it will always be my favorite.  I have a lifetime prescription to Prilosec to prove it. Here in New EnglandFriday Night is Pizza night.  Seeing that I am a patriot it pleases me to believe that Friday is Pizza night in America!  I am lucky to have been brought up around here as some of the nation’s best are close by.  New Haven has some pretty old reveries that continue today to divide families and friends. All the way up interstate 91 which should be known as the pizza corridor.  You can find some awesome pies’ first secret? The water plain and simple.  You can’t make good doe with fluoride and other things like that in the water. Second, healthy competition.  You can’t swing a dead cat around here without hitting a half dozen pizza shops.  But who’s complaining?. 

I do enjoy making our own pizza from scratch.  It is WAY cheaper and really a lot of fun. My wife and I are always thinking of new creations to try out. We are really looking forward to when our daughter can help and enjoy the gift of Friday night pizza.  You know I fancy myself a foodie and amateur chef, but if you were to peel back all the layers of my adult pallet you would find a core made up of fresh bread, melted cheese covered in salty meats and veggies. 

The present is always the best time to be in a wonderful mood.  Having trouble?  Just start planning your next Friday night its only 4 days away!  Here is a work in progress recipe to give you a hand.  Be peace-zza full and Have Fun!  

Red Sauce Recipe:

1 can of peeled plum tomatoes drained and pureed.  1 clove of minced garlic, and a handful of fresh oregano salt and pepper to taste. Put ingredients in a small sauce pan and cook together for a few minutes.    

Try different fun toppings. Pepperoni, cheese, and Goat cheese, red onion basil and turkey bacon pictured

This Pizza Doe recipe is courtsy of Gabrele Corcos from Extra Virgin.  I have tried many but this one works best.  Ialso do not use bread flour just normal.  If you dont have a mixer dont worry it still works out fine.  The Prep Time: 30 min / Inactive Prep: 1.1/2 hr / Serves:4

 1(.25-ounce) package dry active yeast (2 1/4 teaspoons)

1/2 cup lukewarm water (about 105 to 115 degrees F)

4 cups bread flour

1 1/2 teaspoons salt

3/4 cup cold water

1/4 cup olive oil, plus more for bowl
In the bowl of a stand mixer, add the yeast, lukewarm water, and 1/2 cup bread flour. Mix well and let sit until bubbly, about 30 minutes.  Whisk together the remaining 3 1/2 cups bread flour and salt in another bowl so it will be evenly distributed.  Once the yeast mixture is nice and bubbly and looks like foamy beer, add 3/4 cup cold water and olive oil. Using a dough hook, turn the mixer on and add the flour in increments.
 
Mix the dough for about 5 minutes, until the dough starts creeping up the dough hook and comes away from the sides of the bowl.

Place the dough in a large bowl lightly greased with olive oil. Turn to coat all sides of the dough with oil. Cover the bowl loosely with a clean tea towel. Let rise until doubled in size, about 2 hours. Punch dough down, and let rise another hour.  I make 2 pizzas with this recipe