May all of your drives hit the green and roll up to the pin.
And when you put for birdie they always go in.
May you make lite work of all your household chores.
And when you’re rowing the dingy may you never lose an ore.
May your sails never luff and forever fill with wind.
And may each journey end as safely as they begin.
May all your ski days have no lift lines and bright skies.
I hope your boots stay comfortable, and you keep your in shape thighs.
May your wife always love you and your truck never run out of gas.
After 40 years of life I finally understand what you mean by
“it goes by fast”…Happy Father’s Day Pop! Have Fun!
Your son, The Daddy Adjustment
Summer little luxuries whirlpool bubbling spa shower. Pamper your baby from head to toe “new bubbling massage action”.
The summer Whirlpool Bath spa shower may just be the biggest piece of junk I have ever been swindled into purchasing. Actually worse than that, we put it on our baby registry and a very loving relative put down hard earned money for this item. It’s easy to imagine why we had wanted it. Just look at the photo on the box. We thought as many others I imagine. “Of course we want our baby to have Jacuzzi”. I actually couldn’t wait for the moment we would turn the bubbles on and get to take in her expressions.
By the end of day two of ignoring my wife’s request to try it out, we decided to give it “whirl” over the weekend…
About a month back I recall my wife saying “honey let’s return this thing I think it’s going to be a piece of crap”. If my protective and romantic heart could have just listened to her. There are so many things wrong with this tub there are too many to list. Let’s just say my daughter would have had better use for $50 worth of scratch tickets than this thing.
I think the very best part of this whirlpool bath was just before pulling it out of the box. I can still recall being excited about owning this for our baby. 30 seconds after removing the tub from the box all that excitement goes away. Frankly my grandmother’s old foot bath thing would have been better made than this. On a scale from fudge to fantastic I give it fudge minus.
So, if you will enjoy the thought of giving your baby the experience of whirlpool bathing but don’t really want to enjoy the experience at all. Then by all means waste your money on this Summer whirlpool bubbling spa and shower.
the Daddy adjustment
It’s April 22nd and it’s full on spring here in southern New England. Frankly it might as well be summer. Last week we had a week of 95 degrees plus. Now everything in my yard is blooming. We have lilacs that usually don’t bloom till the end of May in full bloom. We have maple trees that have full dark green leaves. To look at it you would swear it was mid-June on my street. Come to think of it we have had the strangest weather in the months my wife was carrying our unborn baby.
First was the crazy tornado that hit our area pretty hard on June 1st. It completely devastated parts of our state. Then there was the Hurricane, which admittedly was not that bad for us. However our neighbor’s to the north were not as lucky. The mountain mudslides turned roads and bridges to nothing but mere rubble. Whole towns cut away from the rest of the world, forced to fend and care for themselves.
Then we had an earthquake, an earthquake in New England! We do have them from time to time but they are small. My friend from LA laughed at me when I told him we had an earthquake. It was a 5 on the scale and to him, that didn’t count. I could understand it was more fun than scary.
Then the storm that had the most impact on us the October surprise blizzard which knocked out power for us for a week. No gas, no heat, no fun with a pregnant wife. Don’t worry, the Daddy to be moved quickly into action on day 2 had a generator with fuel running by night fall. We were just fine.
Which brings me back to these lilacs blooming without concern of date. They seem ignorant to the fact they have been permanently scared by the storm. They grow with a bent over style that contains so much vigor I can hardly believe it. I guess things change, and life moves on regardless of the circumstances. We are all stronger than we think. When you feel overwhelmed and it feels like” this moment will last forever”. Just relax, as nature teaches us we just have to wait a little while.
Before starting this blog I had intended to create a space for individual expression and connectivity were encouraged. A place to have fun journaling all the adventures and learning’s of the modern day stay at home dad. “What a great way to have fun and connect with new people with like interest” I thought. Perhaps I could provide someone with a much needed laugh or giggle, and the feeling of “you’re not alone”. That all sounds really nice right?
Well as some of you have noticed I have been absent from my blog resulting in being out of communication with all my loyal readers and followers. In my experience the first part of connecting with others is showing up. For this I apologize for my abrupt hiatus. I – We have gone through another “adjustment” It is my intension to turn this latest difficult challenge into honest reporting in hopes that it offer solace to someone who may have, are now, or will be soon in the same position.
I am 40 years old. I don’t know if any of you remember that old poster of the kitty hanging from a string by his front paws in school and it read “Hang in there”. The one I found here online wasn’t the one I remember but it gets the point across. For the last three weeks I have been that kitty. I can still picture that poster stuck on a cold cinderblock school blue wall. That environment to me as a young man was extremely ridged and in my eyes at the time flirted with a certain level of institutionalism. But yet that kitty poster was there. I still recall it offering me comfort, that it wasn’t all brick walls and unbending rules. There was compassion, encouragement, and support.
I feel like I have been a sham, and I don’t blame Fox News for the story. For once they got it right, I have been a fraud. “Oh look at me the modern stay at home dad”. Check out my halfcocked recipes and funny musings”. Enjoy my first hand count reviews of baby products, and please follow my links to my Daddy Adjustment Cooking Network reviews. All while raising a happy healthy well feed family.
The truth is, during this time my wife was still working only half days. Three weeks ago, you guessed it. She went back full time. Let me just say I was unaware of what horror laid directly ahead of me. Witnessing my wife having to go back to work for the better part of 9 hours was miserable. She was devastated. I was not prepared for the level of devastation. For the first week everyday started and ended with tears. I am NOT one who enjoys when their wife is upset. If she’s not happy than neither am I.
Don’t get me wrong here I tried to rock it out Daddy style. First day back to work she came home to stories of baby and I grocery shopping and one of her favorite’s on the table Chicken Piccata. My wife was unaffected. “Ok I thought” second day I will break out the real guns. I made her Favorite meatballs and homemade sauce with angel hair pasta. She couldn’t have been more congenial and heart broken. All the homemade meat ball s and the world weren’t going to mend this wound.
This is a recipe that I got from watching one of my favorite TV chefs Alton Brown. This has been pulled from his site on the Cooking Network.com I have made some additions to this recipe noted in the next paragraph. Give it a try it’s easy and great. Just be careful when you skin the squash when it comes out of the oven. HOT! I use oven mits and a big spoon.
This is an easy recipe to make. You will be proud to serve this, and family members will be impressed as it is from scratch. I first served it as a starter course at Thanksgiving. It was an immediate favorite. Because of the smooth consistency children to older adults will enjoy this dish. (you will have hold back on some of the ingredients for the young ones) I added a quarter clove of garlic to each squash half during the baking process. Also a pinch of fresh sage and I put a cinnamon stick on the pan. Thanks Alton!
If you are interested I have linked The daddy Adjustment‘s recipe reviews on the Cooking Network. If you are interested you can read my picks and advice on a lot of different recipes and products. This can be found in my blog roll section down on the left.
TOTAL TIME: 50 min Prep: 10 min YIELD:4 servings LEVEL:Easy
Ingredients • 6 cups (about 2 large squash) seeded 2-inch wide chunks butternut squash • Melted butter, for brushing • 1 tablespoon kosher salt, plus 1 teaspoon • 1 teaspoon freshly ground white pepper, plus 1/2 teaspoon • 3 cups chicken or vegetable stock • 4 tablespoons honey • 1 teaspoon minced ginger • 4 ounces heavy cream • 1/4 teaspoon nutmeg Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F. Brush the flesh of the squash with a little butter and season with 1 tablespoon salt and 1 teaspoon freshly ground white pepper.
On a sheet pan lay the squash flesh side up. Roast for about 30 to 35 minutes or until the flesh is nice and soft. Scoop the flesh from the skin into a pot and add the stock, honey, and ginger. Bring to a simmer and puree using a stick blender. Stir in the heavy cream and return to a low simmer. Season with salt, pepper, and nutmeg.
I remember being an adolescent boy watching the movie “The Deer Hunter”. It was the first time I understood what it meant to lose at the game of Russian roulette. Never ever say “yes” when asked to play that game.
As fortune has it our baby daughter has forced both my wife and I into a life of Diaper Roulette. In this game when hours turn into days the odds increase and the stakes grow very high. Holding the baby on day 3 of no poopies is like flirting with disaster. You know a bomb is coming but when? Now is a good time to have to run to the store and pray the explosive air strike size smash occurs while you are out. You’ll know if you’re the victor if you come home to “Oh my god!” And “It’s horrible”! Now is the a time for very quiet victory, you won this round whew. Unfortunately you know you can only play Russian roulette so many times until there’s a bullet with your name on it. This is diaper roulette and the bullets can be as deadly as napalm. And there is one with your name on it trust me.
I was on a 3 day winning streak when the inevitable happened. “Oh my god”, it’s horrible” suck it up soldier its only poopie! You will learn to love the smell of napalm in the morning. It smells like…victory.
I was so happy during the 3rd ultrasound when we were able to see a little profile of babies face. That was it for me. That was when life began to change for me. It was a reality. The 2nd ultrasound looked like a flickering grain of rice…my wife was way more excited about it than I was…but this time was different. That was the day we found out we were having a girl. Not 30 seconds later the Doctor said we have couple of “markers” that could be a sign of Down syndrome. We were sent to talk to a Genetic Counselor where we were asked about our family history. So now should do an amniocentesis test and make sure all was well with the baby. However, this procedure comes with 1 out of 100 risk for miscarriage. OMG, I had 30 seconds of relief and happiness and now it’s full on worry and concern. We made the choice to have the amnio test…it happen and hour later. The next days were a lesson in worrying. Our daughter was already teaching us how to be new parents.
Everything turned out to be fine with all the tests and we now have a healthy and happy, 8 week old girl to prove it. I bring this up as all of these events helped me wake up and smell the responsibility calling. I had to get my SHIP together. Yes, my SHIP…I really miss swearing!!
First thing I did was make a list of all the major projects around the house that needed attention. I recommend that you do the same. Make sure your list is complete as you will be busy for the next year or so. For me, my list consisted of:
Staining our 2-story house
Demo and rebuilding of 2 sets of steps
Cleaning out all un-needed items to sell on Ebay and Craigs List.
Eradicate the squirrels now living in our shed
Patch holes where squirrels gained entry to shed
During this time your will need to make friends with the fact that it is time to learn to cook. Dinner needs to be prepared every night so plan easy meals for project time. Making tacos, steak and salad, and broccoli pasta are all good meals that come together quickly.